The secret of flirting is simple - SMILE! In my years of teaching "How to Flirt," the most essential, and universal, skill that guarantees successful social relating the one that stands apart and never grows stale is the SMILE!

Flirting is the first step in communication. It is the best way to get to know another person. Flirting is an action verb, "to flirt". It means that you have to do something, take a risk. The best, safest and most successful risk is to smile.

Flirting, or as the dictionary defines it as "acting amorous without serious intent", means being playful, friendly and taking a chance in order to meet people. Whether you are at the coffee bar, a bookstore, a museum, or a supermarket, try to remember to smile. Do not look worried, preoccupied, desperate or in need of a serious commitment. Get involved in the activity you are doing and enjoy the moment, and when you see an attractive stranger, smile. After all, you never know what might happen! But if you don’t smile, in all likelihood, nothing will.

I am not suggesting that you take an unsafe risk and smile at strangers in dark alleys or in smoky bars at 4AM, but try and smile in safe places, where there are lots of people and positive energy.

Smiling tells that person that you are friendly.

Smile at the stranger sipping cappuccino or give directions to a person holding a map. If we don’t smile, or communicate, we limit our chances to transform our lives. Besides, even if the person isn’t interested, you’ve made them feel good about themselves by smiling. So makes someone’s day!

Rules for smiling -

Pick a safe place
Test-drive some different smiles on your friends to see which is most becoming to you.
Practice your smile in the mirror
Check your attitude. Is your smile sincere?
And your homework: Smile at five people a day.

....and if you keep smiling, you’ll have all the opposite sex at your feet!