Outrageous Flirting

How to Flirt outrageously with your spouse or lover...

Give your partner the gift of a genuine compliment every day.
It will serve to remind both of you that you are in this relationship by choice.

When you compliment your lover, you identify what it is you love about your lover. Name those qualities to yourself. Acknowledge the kind of person your husband, wife, or lover is, and what the relationship means to you.

When your partner tells you about his or her accomplishments, laud them. Don't compete or judge. When you remind your partner how great he or she is, the best words are always your own words. These phrases might inspire you.

"Have I told you lately that I really love living with you "

"My favorite time of day is when we wake up in the moming and you cuddle me a while before we get up. That's very special to me."

Build your partner up, and you will be built up too. That is, you remember how lucky you are to have your partner.

"I know things are rough at work right now. I want you to know I appreciate it that you keep at it, day after day, even when you don't want to, because of your commitment to taking care of our family."

"I am so proud of your drawing/sewing/soccer coaching. It's great that you're trying something new."

"I really appreciate you being so patient with my mother/kids/boss/Mynah bird/golf-habit."

"I want you to know that I know how much you really love me."


Creative flirting with your beloved enhances self-esteem and sends you out of your corner of the ring prepared to take on the world.

Committed grown-ups can create love every day. If you're married, be a Married Flirt.


Flirting by Doing
The best way to continue creating love in your relationship is to continue expressing love in your relationship.

. . . . Some expressions of creative flirting don't rely on speech. Whether you're a whiz at words or sometimes at a loss, don't overlook the tremendous power of flirting by doing.

Leave notes . . . . in your lover's briefcase, Iunch bag, raincoat, underwear drawer, make-up kit, car, workout bag ... or any ordinary place where a love note is unexpected. The note can simply say,"I love you," or "See you tonight," or "I want you."

Massage neck, shoulders, and, especially, feet.

Serve your beloved. Bring coffee to the bedroom in the moming. Jump up and get dessert. What this says is: "You're so special to me that that right now I'm thinking more about you and your comfort than I am about my own."

Send a greeting card to the office. Mark it "Personal."

Draw a bubble bath.

Make and keep eye contact when you're talking. Decide your beloved's eyes are the most fascinating and provocative sight you've ever seen ... so much so that you can barely look away.

. . . Most men prefer little surprises. Big surprises (trips, cars, houses, dogs) make them feel out of control. But women love surprises of all shapes and sizes.

Help put on his or her coat, even if help is not needed.

Hold the towel open as your beloved comes out of the shower.

One easy way to have a surprise birthday party is simply to have people arrive, unexpected by your mate, one by one or in groups.

Bring one flower home.

Make a provocative photograph. (Once, when Mike was about to take a week-long hunting trip, I used the timing shutter on my camera to take a photo of myself wearing alluring lingerie. I slipped the photo into himsef and his buddies, when he came across my surprise. I'm told the photo is still there, tacked to the cabin wall!)

You will come up with many more creative ideas, if you just keep this in mind.

Romantic attention is the ultimate flirtation.