Many people lack the basic knowledge and understanding of what really makes a relationship healthy and loving.

Communication is essential for a healthy relationship
This cannot be said to people enough. Communication is the root of all relationships. You cannot fully understand the way someone thinks without hearing what they have to say. Great relationships bloom and prosper because both partners are willing to talk through all problems that arise and converse openly on any topic of importance to the relationship.

There are no one-way doors in a healthy relationship
Some people I have met just never think of the reverse situation. The idea that they can do something and would not want their partner doing the opposite. If you can do something then why can't the other person do the same thing? For instance, I know a woman who did not like the idea of her boyfriend going out with his female friends, yet she had male friends and saw no problem with going out with them. This is a trust/jealousy issue basically, and although there is nothing wrong with jealousy, it is wrong to believe what you can do, they cannot. What it comes down to is this, if you do it, then so can they. If they do it, then so can you.

There are no restrictions except those which are mutually agreed upon
Any restrictions/rules/boundaries that are set-up in a relationship must be observed, understood, and practiced by both partners, always. A rule cannot apply to one person and not the other, this comes back to the one-way door point. A case in point, if you do not like your partner getting intoxicated, then you should not get intoxicated either. But again, both people must agree upon the rule. An example of rules which are universally understood and observed in the majority of committed relationships but may never be discussed are; no dating other people, no kissing other people (on the lips), no sex outside of the relationship, etc..

Simple things are always cherished best
The simple things are what matter most. People love to be showered with gifts, but that runs dry if there is no warmth in your touch or love in your eyes. Some people have the notion that material possessions equal happiness. It is not wrong to like or want to own things, it is wrong to believe that by owning many things you will be a fulfilled person. Showing your love for your partner with emotion and thoughtfulness far outweigh any purchased gift. You can be the poorest person in the world and it won't matter one bit to the one who is in love with you, as long as you show your love for them.

Do what you can and know that it is enough
If you give your heart to another, they may abuse it. If you show your heart to another they can only bask in its radiance. You can only do so much. However, you should do whatever you can for your partner and try not to miss opportunities that would have been possible if you had just taken a little more time. Know that by putting 100 percent into your relationship you will never go wrong.

Sometimes you should take a break
It is easy in todays fast-paced world to forget that you might need some time sperate of your partner. Work and/or school do not give you this time since they are part of your regular routine. Somedays you may want to take some time for yourself and do what you want to do. It is entirely alright for you to want to take a break from your partner. However, when you return to your partner you should give them even more affection than usual. In a way, this shows your gratitude for your partner understanding your need to be your own person.

Many people will go through a number of relationships before finally finding the right person that they wish to spend their lives with. This is perfectly normal and you should never believe that it is "impossible" to find your compatible man or woman. Some people will find their match with their first attempt and others may find them after having 30 relationships and 2 divorces. It makes no difference, just know that eventually you will run into that Mister or Miss Right. The following are why your previous attempts most likely ended with the two of you parting ways.

There exists three main reasons why relationships fail; lack of chemistry, inadequate communication, and unrealistic expectations.

Lack of Chemistry
If two people lack chemistry (i.e., vastly different in personalities), then that is just it, there is nothing that can be done about this. No amount of talking will solve this incompatability. This is one fascet of relationships that must be accepted, not everyone works together. Chemisty also relates to your attraction to the other individual. You may find someone very beautiful and physically attractive, but if they lack the inner beauty then you will never be satisfied with that person. Always remember that physical and mental beauty are subjective and your personal opinion of what is beautiful is just that, your opinion.

Inadequate Communication
Communication on all topics is the greatest single act to achieving a healthy relationship with your partner. Many people can discuss everything except the ideas of sexuality and have enormous difficulty communicating openly about their sexual needs and desires. Your partner cannot read your mind and will never know your feelings, needs, and desires if you do not express them. So remember to always give signals that you are enjoying something or that something is not working for you. Be open to your partner about your needs and thoughts and be understanding regarding your partners' needs and thoughts.

Unrealistic Expectations
People are not perfect and you cannot expect even your most compatible match to be absolutely flawless. To err is human and it is the severity of the blunder which must be worked out. A strong ability to communicate with your partner is essential in resolving conflicts. Many people have difficulty excepting their own errors or that of others and believe that if the person was their match they would never make hurtful mistakes. This is not true, people screw up and that is either something we accept or do not accept, end of story.

Destructive Routines
A frequent mistake that long term couples make is that a kiss is always a signal of having intercourse, or that a kiss should always follow an ordered path. Routines (while pleasurable) can also be deadly for a relationship. Routines sometimes can act to diminish the excitement, because the other person already knows exactly what will come next. In that way, a 'first' with someone new is always exciting, because you simply have no idea what to expect. Therefore, in an effort to help people 'break' old patterns and vary your lip techniques, here is a composite list of different ways to kiss.