A sure way to increase your love for something or someone, is to invest time in that thing or person. Start doing special deeds of kindness for someone and you will find that your love increases for that person because feelings of love come with the functions of love. If your passion is waning or you want to increase your love for your spouse, try some of these ideas:

Romantic Ideas
Take walks together. Consider a romantic walk on a warm moonlit night.

Create a romantic atmosphere in your home by burning scented candles or potpourri. If you don't have a potpourri burner or candles, just mix citrus rinds and cloves and boil on the stove. Don't overdo it with the fragrances, however, because too many fragrances can destroy the mood you are trying to create.

Serve dinner by candle light.

Relax in front of a crackling, glowing fire in your fireplace.

Leave little notes of endearment around the house (on mirrors, inside a drawer or underwear, etc.) Include a brief, but loving, note inside your spouse's lunch.

Fun Ideas
Yes, your marriage can be fun, but you may have to work at making it fun.

Laugh together. Collect cartoons or jokes that you know your partner would enjoy.

Find an activity you both like, whether it's running, fishing, or whatever.

Play games together.

Try a scavenger hunt. One husband taped a note on the door for his wife. The note led her to numerous other notes until she discovered her husband in the closet holding a "pot of gold" (her cooking kettle with a gift inside it). You could easily make this into a romantic scavenger hunt by dressing in an enticing negligee.
***Hide a heart. Several years ago, a friend gave me a plastic red heart. She suggested that I hide it in a place where my husband was sure to find it. I did. When he found it, it was his turn to hide it. We have enjoyed finding clever places to hide the heart, and every time we find it, we know that the other person loves us. (Sometimes we get too good at hiding the heart, and it stays hidden for a long time.)

Do something unexpected. Surprise your spouse.

If you enjoy puzzles, work on one together.

Read a book together.

Watch a movie.

Look at old pictures together and reminisce of old times.

Dating Again?
Remember your first days together. If possible, reenact that first date. Nothing seems to spark the flames as to remember your first fun times together.

Court again. Do what you did to win the affections of your mate.

Spend some time alone together. This is especially important if you have children. It is essential for you as a couple to date and for your children to see you together. Find a babysitter or someone you can exchange child sitting services together.

Make time for each other. In today's busy society, days can go by without couples spending time together. Try to spend at least 10 minutes together each day, even if it means standing in a steamy bathroom while the other is showering. Another way to spend time together is to practice "couch time." Spend at least 15 minutes sitting together on the couch without the children. If you have children, stress the importance of your "Mommy and Daddy time" together. Not only do you have precious moments together, but your children will gain security knowing that their mommy and daddy enjoy spending time together.

Little Things
Show appreciation for the little things. An occasional card, flowers, meaningful gift or even just a simple "thank you" can mean so much.

Say "I love you" often. Reveal you care by your words and your actions.

Always give your spouse a goodbye hug and kiss before leaving in the morning.

At the end of the day, greet your spouse with a hug, kiss, and "how was your day?"

Take time to really communicate and understand your spouse.

Share your feelings with each other.

Remain faithful in thought and deed. Purity before marriage and fidelity after marriage is not only healthy from a physical viewpoint (prevention of AIDS and many other sexual diseases), but from a marital perspective, as well. Nothing destroys a marriage quicker than infidelity.

God made sex pleasurable. The married couple has nothing to be ashamed of, so enjoy it!

Don't belittle your spouse, especially in front of others. Respect your spouse even when you disagree.

Wives, build up your husband's ego and honor and respect him.

Husbands, treat your wife like the queen you want her to be. Practice TLC: tender telling, loving in little things, and care in contact.

Christian couples should read the Bible, pray together, and attend church regularly.

Make up your mind that you will love your spouse. Love is a mental attitude and not a feeling. It is the unselfish self-sacrificial desire to meet the needs of the cherished object. If you think it's possible to love your spouse too much, you probably haven't loved her or him enough.