In any Relationship it becomes really Important to do little Romantic Things with your Partner that will make each day of your lives together very Special! I call it the "Focus on Each Day" Therapy!
Below you will find ways to make your "Focus on Each Day" extraordinarily romantic, whether you are in a long-term relationship, dating, or are single.
A note for people who are in a new relationships, or who are dating someone but are not in a committed relationship. At the beginning of a relationship, it is best not to have too any expectations about how each Day will progress together. It is also best not to get disappointed if it is not romantic in just the way you would want. In time, as you and your partner get closer, both of you will be able to celebrate each Day in more meaningful ways.
Today, create a perfect "Focus on Each Day" for yourself, regardless of what your dating partner may or may not have planned for you. Look at the suggestions for singles below.
Then, do something small, but meaningful for your dating partner. Look for suggestions for couples below, but tone the activity down a bit.
And now, 10 ways to make your "Focus on Love Day" extraordinarily romantic:
1. The Perfect Day
Couples: See if you can start to notice what your lover dreams about, wishes for. Listen for small, attainable things that can make a big difference. Alternatively, subtly question your lover about what he/she pictures as the perfect Day. Now take the information you have gathered and make it into a perfect day for him or her.
Singles: If you had a partner, what would you have him or her do to create your perfect Day? Create it for yourself - love yourself that much.
2. The Perfect Card + One Perfect Rose
Couples: Buy or make a lovely card and then fill it to the brim with words of love, admiration and appreciation. By "fill it to the brim," I mean leave no white space untouched. Present it with one perfect rose.
Singles: Buy or make a lovely card for yourself, and just as above, fill it to the brim with words you want to hear from your future lover. Seal the envelope and open it on Valentine's Day. Present it to yourself with one perfect rose.
3. "Focus on each Day" is Not Just for Women
Couples: Ladies, I have it on good authority that guys want to be celebrated too. So get him flowers and candy and a card, too.
Singles: Guys, give yourself that same wonderful "Focus on each Day" Day as a relationship partner would give you. You may feel silly, but you will also feel good.
4. Say Goodbye to Obligation, Say Hello to Open Heart
Couples: Don't give or do anything out of obligation this Day. Give only from your heart, from love and treasuring your partner. No matter how good or bad your relationship is going, get in touch with how much you truly love and appreciate your partner. Give from that space.
Singles: Don't beat yourself up for not having a partner. You have not failed. You are not bad. This Day can be "Focus on Love for Yourself Day" as easily as "Focus on Love for Another Day."
5. The Gift of Undivided Attention
Couples: Give your partner the gift of undivided attention and see if she or he doesn't find that the most romantic thing going.
Singles: Give yourself the gift of your own undivided attention. Take away all of the distractions and be with yourself the way you would want your partner to be with you.
6. Gift of Communication, I
Couples: Men, allow your woman to talk about whatever her heart desires, and listen. Ladies, let your man talk or answer your question without finishing his sentences for him, interrupting him, or moving on to the next topic. See if this doesn't make sparks fly.
Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you the way you need to be heard, or give yourself space and time to listen to your own thoughts and feelings or to journal.
7. Gift of Communication, II
Couples: Ladies, give your man the gift of sitting down next to him in silence. No talking allowed. Men, give your lady the gift of talking and sharing from your heart. No closing down, walling up or running away allowed.
Singles: Either silence or open heart, give yourself whichever one you need.
8. A Gift with Interest
Couples: Is your partner into computers, and you don't know a mouse from a monitor? Or is she into gardening, but to you a rose is just a rose? Give your partner the gift of your interest in something that is important to him or her. Go ahead, ask your partner a question about it and see the smile light up his or her face.
Singles: Give yourself the gift of time to pursue your important interests. Take the time to do something that nourishes you and makes you happy.
9. The Trust
Couples: Ladies, give the man in your life the gift of trusting him to know how and when to take care of himself and you. Trust that he will do the best he can for Valentine's Day. Gentlemen, hold her trust sacred, and learn to listen for subtle requests. Then honor them. The celebration of love will feel good to both of you.
Singles: Today, trust your process and your fate. Today, trust that you too will be loved and cherished by a partner. Today, remember all the people who already love and cherish you.
10. A Shower of Words
Couples: Write your loved one a love letter or poem and read it to them on Valentine's Day. Here come the tears.
Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly the way you would want it written by a lover. Read it to yourself out loud and have Kleenex ready.
Plan to have a happy Focus on each Day!