These are all tips from our Readers on how to know he only wants sex from You.


Linda says:

1. He makes a pass at you very early on in the date.

2. I think when he picks you up for the first time in a robe, that's a good sign.


Scott says:

3. If he starts off by saying "I'm only in town for a few days..."

4. Calls you at 10 pm on a weekend night, wants to "get together"

5. Tells you in advance that he's got a meeting, tee-time, flight, etc. the next morning so he has an alibi for a quick getaway after he scores.

6. Maneuvers you into inviting him up after you've both been drinking... your judgment is poor at this point, and he can claim he needs some time to sober up before he drives home...(I'll have to try this one!)

7. Buys you drinks faster than you can drink them - a real danger signal!!!

8. Only gives you his work phone #.

9. When he sends you the FTD Condom Coffee Mug Bouquet at work the afternoon of your first date.

10. When he "accidentally" gives you a paper cut, while showing you how to make an origami crane... then shoves the paper into the side of a humming, white box labeled "Mr. STD: Home Test Unit".


Matthew says:

11. This is a little confusing for me. I have always felt that I would be happy to try to get into a relationship with any of the women I slept with but they were the ones with other ideas. The one time I decided I was planning on a quick fling, I ended up living with her for two years (going on...).

12. My advice: Are you pretty? Are you in a bar? Do you have a perm or is your hair dyed blonde? Is your cleavage visible? Is this the first time you met the man? Do you not know any of his friends? Is he male? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions, he's after sex. Of course, that doesn't preclude a relationship after sex... Especially if you're good...

13. Okay, one more thing. Again, I've never gone out with someone for sex or even considered it, really... Anyway, if you don't have sex with him and he stops calling you... That would be the big sign. I mean, why would you sleep with him that early in the relationship if YOU didn't want sex? If you sleep with him because you think you'll keep him then you're kidding him. If you sleep with him because you like him and you want to then why get upset when he dumps you?

14. Want a sneaky trick? I have a friend who makes sure they do an enormous amount of cuddling and going out first. She doesn't realize it (actually, she's also just after sex) but men get really attached when they do that. So, go out three times and get all snuggly and make them feel all protective of you before you go that route.


Rip says:

15. How about: He agrees to sit through a Meryl Streep movie with you.

16. He doesn't even flinch when you say you hate football.

17. He says he agrees with you about football. (Difficult to test if it's not a weekend.)

18. He's breathing.


Keith says:

19. His name is Keith.


Rob says:

20. This is soooooo easy ... the final one is a "sure fire" indicator of such ... take my word for it as a seasoned poker player!

20. a) He is over attentive ... anticipating your "wish" before you even yourself know you wish it ...

21. b) He is "touchy" at each and every possible opportunity ... offering "back rubs" without you even having to ask .... and each "touch" is a bit drawn out and full of longing ... even if it's simply to brush something off of your shoulder

22. c) His answer to the question "how many single women friends do you have who you have never kissed?" is "none"

23. d) He only seems to be available to get together for "evening romance" types of opportunities ... not a daytime activity like tennis or a walk

24. e) Just ask him point blank, without any flirtation in your tone the following question ... maybe with a bit of suspicion

"you know ..... a girlfriend of mine went home with a guy a month ago THE VERY NIGHT SHE MET HIM and it turned out he was only interested in sleeping with her ... nothing more ... and she was really sorry the next day ... by the way .... how many one-night stands have YOU had in your life?"

and see what he says ... and make sure to say NOTHING right after he answers ... as the "follow on" to this question is where he will reveal his true motivations regarding you at that moment

If he admits that he HAS had a number of such events occur ... but quickly volunteers in earnest something along the lines of how very UNSATISFYING such were ... or any sort of similar negative connotation about the concept of "one night stands" ... and he offers such WITHOUT YOUR SAYING ONE WORD ... he is looking for such with you .

Here's why .... if indeed he is looking for such opportunity with you .... then your question will put him on the spot .... and he will instinctively feel sort of "busted" ... and will thus overcompensate by trying to reassure you that such is the farthest possible thing on his mind.

If he admits to a few such events .... but offers nothing more during your extended silence ... you can be more assured he is not looking for such with you ... or he follows on with something that "explains away" such obviously promiscuous behavior by being in a foreign land, or really drunk or something ... that's a bit safer ... as depending on your current circumstances ... he has just nailed shut his chances for tonight ... unless of course you ARE in a foreign land ... or drunk as a skunk.

If he answers "never" ... you will have ample defense later if he becomes overly amorous ... as "we're going too fast" is now totally acceptable since he doesn't "jump into bed" by his own admission.


Joel says: Top 7 ways you can tell a guy only wants sex: - When he says:

25."Meet me at my place at 11:00 tonight"

26. He doesn't introduce you to his friends

27. He says "Bring those thigh high leather go-go boots"

28. In conversation, your breasts have more eye contact with him than your eyes.

28. He forgets your name on the way to his place.

30. He insists on paying for dinner. [Guys going dutch are in it for love. If I'm paying for the creme brulee, I have _certain expectations_.]

31. His only idea for a date is "Hang out at my place"


Joel's friend in DC says:

32. Wandering eyes

33. Offers to buy drinks

34. Sends gifts

35. Says nearly rude things


The author of Chicks? Ugh! says:

36. He says: "I don't have a girlfriend, I just wear this beeper because it makes me look important."

37. He pretends to be gay. Chicks dig Leonardo DiCaprio, George Michael, and I don't think we even need to mention Ricky Martin, do we?

38. He only goes after the hottest chicks possible. He pretends he isn't interested in the girl. He'll tell them that they're fat, even if they weigh 104lbs. He'll tell them if they really love him, that they will have to get breast implants.

39. He reminds them every 4 minutes how lucky they are to be with him.

40. He makes sure you catch him staring at other chicks. This will make sure that you don't forget that you are always in competition with other chicks.


Brett says:

41. If he never asks what your middle name is.

42. If he can't remember your first or last name either.

43. No appetizers, no dessert, just drinks before dinner, an entree and more drinks after dinner.

44. If he insists that you go to a bar where you know there is a condom dispenser in the bathroom.

45. If he goes "commando" (no underwear) on the date and tells you about it.

46. Tells you that he isn't a "one night stand" kind of guy after telling you that he isn't wearing underwear.

47. Quickly loses interest after the third date if "laying' hasn't occurred.

48. Doesn't call after the "laying" has occurred.

49. Checks out your mother and sisters if given the opportunity.

50. Asks if you are on birth control on the first date, usually between picking you up and the restaurant...


What does your Guy say......if he says or does anything like the Ones above maybe it's Time to find a New Guy. Unless of course Your looking for a Guy who just wants Sex!!